Tuesday, March 18, 2025

My love for Abigail Adams...

 



I must have been twelve or thirteen when I fell in love with John and Abigail Adams. It was early June, and we had just moved into the rental cottage for the summer. It was right on the shores of Lake Michigan. I don’t know how my mom found that old house, but we loved it. It was big enough for all of us including grandparents and friends who meandered up for part of the summer.

My mom gathered food staples all winter so that we would just need to buy items like milk or eggs or fresh vegetables. Actually, going to the grocery was second on the list of checking in to that house. The first order of business was to take us to the library to get our summer library cards. I don’t think there was programming at the library in those days…probably not anywhere for the matter of fact, but all we needed were library cards. We all scattered into all parts of the library finding our books and being very quiet as well. There was also no talking in the library in those days!

By the time I was a young teenager of twelve or thirteen, I began to shift my reading into the adult section. It was quite on accident that I picked up “Those Who Love” by Irving Stone. I really didn’t know what the book was about, but I did like the title. I took it up to the front desk where I was immediately sent back to the stacks to return it and get a book more suitable for a young reader like me. Luckily my mom was right behind me and stood up for me. I checked out the book.

After supper that night, when we all headed to bed (with flashlights), I began reading the story of John and Abigail Adams. I fell in love immediately. John was a stodgy young lawyer; Abigail was the daughter of a New England preacher. When they fell in love and announced they were to be married, it was rumored (and gossiped about heavily) that the lovely Abigail was definitely marrying beneath her status. Love prevailed even with a long engagement. They moved into a house next door to his mother in Braintree, Massachusetts where John set up his law practice in a small room in the house and Abigail set up house. But, she was more than a housewife, she was his sounding board, his voice of reason. She was a scholar herself studying religion and literature and languages in her own father’s study. Even though women had no say in the early years, Abigail did. She clearly influenced John.

He was a brilliant young lawyer taking on cases of controversy. They moved to Boston where he could do his best work and give his all to this fledgling country. I could regale you with hours of stories, but not now.

Letters between the two of them have survived. One in particular Abigail asks John to “Remember the ladies and be more generous and favorable to them than your ancestors.” The letter is dated March 31, 1776.

John became the second President of the United States, and they were the first couple to eventually move into the White House. On the night of his inauguration John went to bed early. Abigail was unable to attend due to lack of funds and the roads were muddy making it hard for travel on March 4, 1797. John wrote to her telling her of all the details. He wrote, “May none but honest and wise men ever rule under this roof.”

He served just one term losing to Thomas Jefferson and retired back to his beloved farm with his law books and Abigail.

When I closed that book as a young girl, I knew I loved them, and I knew I loved history. In years since I have traveled to Braintree and Boston to study in their libraries. I have told stories and given speeches much akin to Abigail. If there was one woman I could meet from history, it would be her. We would sit in this old house with candles burning and a pot of fresh tea. She would push her hair back behind her ears as she always did while listening to John and tell me her stories.

I know this much, my life changed because of that book. I will always be grateful to Abigail Adams who once said, “Remember the women.”


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