When I was
eleven years old my life consisted of biking around my neighborhood, writing
plays for my brothers and sisters, and performing those plays under my mother’s
clothesline. I was chubby with crooked
front teeth and a pixie hair cut. Life was grand in every way.
Until one
day…
The girls
in my class at school were given pink invitations to take home to our mothers.
We were so excited to be inviting our mothers to a tea party! I wore my best
dress, anklets, and patent leather shoes. I loved the tea party with mints and
cookies. But then we watched a film that changed our lives, “What is happening
to my body?”
I slunk
down into my chair as I watched all the changes about to occur and no way to
stop it, something like a train wreck.
Growing up
in my era we were groomed for the happily ever after which meant marring the
man of our dreams and having children. This happily ever after was re-enforced
by the rules of the Baptist church where we attended: 1. Always sit six inches
apart from boys. 2. Do not swim with boys or their little spermettes will find
you in the water. 3. Never smoke, drink, touch or have --- (we weren’t allowed
to say the word) with boys.
This
original piece, The Baptist Girl’s Guide
to Sex, Love, and Happiness, explores these growing up issues in a humorous
way while weaving back and forth between my women’s potluck group conversations
and my own once-upon-a-time fairy tale.
This past
year I have personally set out finding the happily ever after. Do folks still
believe in it? What about me? What about you?
Writing of
the script fell upon hard times as my pieces began to unravel onto the cutting
room floor. Some stories were brought back to life. Others were swept out the
back door along with the day’s footprints.
As with all
storytelling performances, I needed an audience to bring the show alive! I was able to share the story at Diva Fest in
Indianapolis in the early spring. It was a great beginning for me and led to
lots of discussions. With much more work, I was able to perform the show on
Ocracoke Island, North Carolina to visitors and locals alike. I have since
shared it with other Indiana audiences at house concerts.
At the beginning of this adventure I felt my
story would be enjoyed most of all by middle aged women. I was wrong. My
audiences have been diverse, with men and women of all ages. The youngest was
15. She came up to me immediately after the show with tears in her eyes, “I
really appreciate my mom after your story,” she said to me. “My mom is so
honest with me.”
The
oldest member of the audience so far was an 85 year old woman who sat in the
back because she thought she might have to leave! She stayed and enjoyed the
entire show. And all you men out there, the largest laughs have come from you,
so don’t be shy!
Carolyn
Powers wrote on Facebook, “Had a sneak preview of Lou Ann Homan's Indy Fringe show last night at our home. What a fantastic
storyteller! Her story brought laughter, wonder, tears and joy. If you can
drive to Indy to the fringe, be there. You will not be disappointed!”
It is with
deep appreciation that I thank IndyFringe and Storytelling Arts of Indiana.
These two organizations have created this venue for me to tell my story. Now it
is your turn. Come on out, and then tell your own ‘growing up story’ with
friends and family. Those of you attending, please make your presence known so
that I may thank you for coming as well.
See you at
the IndyFringe 2013!
1 comment:
I wish I could come see your show. Sounds like a hoot! I too remember watching a film....and we got the book "Growing up and Liking It." My sisters and I still howl with laughter. The nurse brought in a large Samsonite suitcase with all styles of Modess inside. Remember those belts? I grew up in the times of "Hello God, it's me Margaret." I cried when I got my period and my mother told MY FATHER! When it came time for my own daughter, she asked that I not tell my husband...the first thing I ever kept from him. As I explained to him later, it was her right to her own secret. I could write on and about the talks I've had with the kids...totally open and honest has bee our policy. And as for happiness ever after, yes, I have found it. And it gets better as we get older. Thanks for sharing your stories. I love them!
NJ Reader
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